On A More Serious Note...

Well hello there!

I typically talk about less serious things because they're easy, as most people do. But when someone's down or sad or having a tough time, it forces us into facing the real world. A world where emotions and issues aren't easy. They're tough and something a lot of people think need just a smile to cover it up. 

"I'm okay." "I'm fine." "Don't worry about it." 

How many times have we heard that or even said it when someone asks what the matter seems to be? I bet you can't count on one hand. I know I can't. 

The reason we say these phrases is because even for just a second, we slipped up and we need to recover. We let how we're feeling out of it's cage guarded by smiles and laughs. Very often I see people saying, "just be happy," like it's the easiest thing in the world.

"Just smile."

It's like these people, society, don't want to see sad or angry or upset or a different emotion than happy. They feel as though it is a burden to them to know of someone who isn't happy. No one wants others to have to take on this debt. That's why these "disapproved" emotions are hidden. To society, it is not okay to be anything other than happy.

I'm writing this because it's essential to let everyone know that it is okay to be sad. It is okay to be angry. It is okay to be upset. It is okay to be confused. It is okay to be depressed. It is okay to have anxiety. It is okay to be something that is not happy.

In order for someone to be happy, don't they have to know what sad feels like? How do you know you're happy if you haven't felt sad?

That is why we need to let people know that it is okay to not be okay. It only creates a heavier weight on their shoulder for them to have to pretend, for our sake, that it is okay. Once we, as a society, stop expecting everyone to be happy, our world will be a happier place.

We would actually be able to help someone rather than tossing their issues aside. We would actually be able to talk about how we're feeling rather than sitting in the dark crying about it. We would actually be able to stop someone from becoming too depressed rather than forcing them further into the hole they're in. We would actually be capable of being happy rather than faking it.

I guess what I want taken out of this is that it is okay to be sad. Don't ever feel like you have to hide it or pretend that everything is okay. If you ever feel like your sadness is getting too far or no one understands and you need someone to talk to, I am here for you. 

Currently I have a Tumblr where people can come anonymously and tell me what their problems are. If you don't feel like talking that way, you can also e-mail me at mackenziebaynham@gmail.com

But just remember, it's okay to not be okay.

-MacKenzie

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