Defining Yourself

Well hello there!

I wanted to talk about something that has been brought to my attention by quite a lot of people recently. There are 2 things that a person can be, that they can choose to be. A survivor/fighter or a victim. For those that choose to be survivor, I give nothing but love and support. For those that choose to be a victim, I give nothing. Let me explain.

Every person on this Earth has something traumatic happen to them, maybe even multiple instances. Whether it be physical, emotional, psychological, whatever the case may be, it's trauma. It is a part of every person's life. And it builds you to be the person you are today - unless you choose to be a victim.

To me, a survivor and/or a fighter are the people that take these traumatic events and instances to become better. They want no pity for they want you to see them as something other than what has happened to them. They have fought, or are fighting, to be the absolute best version of themselves that they can be. They do what they can to live every day as best as they possibly can. These are the kinds of people that every person should be, but there's some that aren't.

Victims take what has happened to them and drag it out to explain why they are the way they are. They want pity, they want sympathy, they define themselves by what has happened to them. They are the worst thing that has ever happened in their lives and they use this to excuse their actions. "I am the way I am because of this traumatic event that has happened in my life in which case you should feel sorry for me although I am still going to be a bad person." These people are my problem.

In the case of a traumatic event you are allowed to feel bad and upset and any other negative emotion. But when it comes time to move on, you need to realize that is not that you'll only be. You have the ability to be a good person and a survivor, and take that instance and build yourself into something so great. Should you not choose to do so and expect everyone to feel bad for you, I hope that someone tells you there is more to you than just that.

I chose to tattoo the words "be kind" on my arm for 2 reasons. Be kind to yourself. Love yourself and treat yourself the way you want someone to treat you. You should come first. Be kind to one another, for everyone is facing a battle you know nothing about. Kindness costs nothing and is so beneficial to everyone involved. Everyone needs kindness.

With what I'm saying in this post you might believe that I am not being kind, but I beg to differ. I am not saying that I am not going to be kind to people that choose to be victims, I will. But I refuse to pity them if they choose to see themselves as only a victim.

I will say this time and time again, YOU ARE NOT THE WORST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU. So to any victims out there, stop acting like it's all that defines you. Choose to be a survivor/fighter. Be the best you that you can be and be happy that you are alive, because that's the greatest gift of all.

Until next time...
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