Stop Deducing And Start Living

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Welcome back to another one of those posts where I just ramble on and on about a topic until I've run out of things to say. If you feel the need to read more of these, there's plenty of them on here so just take a look around. Today's topic isn't really coming from much of an anger standpoint, or really any kind of overly emotional spot. It's more of a just overall thought that's popped into my brain and I just feel like writing about it. So here it is.

You and I, we live in a world where everything is standardized and superficial. I'm not really sure how we got to this point although I'm sure it has to do with media. Everything kind of does, doesn't it? It's evolved into such a wicked tool that I don't really believe was created with the intention to do so. But that's just how things go sometimes. I tend to believe in good intentions because I don't like to think that everything is bad right from the get-go, so maybe your opinion is different. And that's okay, that's kind of what this is about.

Back to the standardized and superficial bit... We've gotten to a spot in media where everything is beautiful all of the time. Everyone too. There's these ideals that people are supposed to fit in. You must obtain this unrealistic (for most) lifestyle which contains nothing but perfection. And if you don't have whatever the 'in' thing is, you must strive and strive and strive to get it because without it, you aren't worth the acknowledgement. Or even if you are worth it, the only reason is for others to use it as a security to ensure themselves that they're doing okay.

These things can be appearances, and for the most part they are, because that's what drives media. But it's also evolved into life goals and achievements. When it comes to appearance though we all feel the need to subject ourselves into these "rules of acceptance and admiration." And I'm not going to lie about it, I feel the need to do it. It could be something as simple as a hair colour or something life changing like a body type. There's always that trending appearance that everyone in the world must stop and adhere to. And I firmly believe that those trending attributes are what makes us so sick.

Every one of us tells people that it's okay to be who you are, that you should love who you are just as you are. And we really should. But when each day we become bombarded by these new ideals of what we should be and what we should strive to be, we lose that sense of us. At the same time, we subconsciously turn these self doubts onto those around us. We tear people down, we reduce them, to make ourselves feel better about how we look. It's not necessarily intentional, but we've been trained to do it.

Each individual person on this Earth is trying their best to mould themselves into their perfect ideals. And that's not a bad thing, to strive to be the best you possible and to strive for things that you want for yourself. The problem is that when we deduce ourselves to fit these ideals that everyone else believes we should fit in. Sometimes those rules that they build for us end up becoming our own to abide by. And that's where this whole thing gets strewed.

We all want what's best for us and that's an important thing to want. But what I'm getting at here is to stop thinking that this mould is all that you should live by. You don't need to look a certain way or be a certain way in order to feel acceptance and love. Maybe that's what's being presented to you, but you shouldn't live your life trying to please other people. And you shouldn't live your life trying to be what other people tell you that you should be, or trying to fit into what they find as attractive. It's okay to love who you are and be comfortable with who you are. Hell, it's the best thing that you can do for you.

So please for the rest of the time we're alive, can we all stop deducing ourselves and just start living? Because I'm pretty damn sure that's what this life thing is all about.

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